How to keep calm and simply move on.
Every field is different. Being an editor is different; being an author is different. A musician is very different from a tennis player, of course. And there comes a certain point where all their expectations of reaching a higher goal fail. Why?
Because sometimes, we get eager—so eager to reach a certain goal that we rush things and turn them inside out without even realizing it. This generation is nothing but a short example of what competition is all about. And believe it or not, when there is patience, there’s everything you want in this world.
We must make sure that the goal we want to achieve does not affect our emotional, mental, or physical health. Having ambition is more than amazing. After all, our fight is with ourselves, not others. If we always compare ourselves with another famous author or musician, we’ll always live in that fantasy where we only ‘think’ of reaching a goal, rather than ‘acting’ on it.
Demotivation is a part of every single situation, and it has a funny way of clashing with us whenever we are already at our lowest. But should you let it bring you down? Of course not. Demotivation is just a term with two added letters. Remove the first two, get a cup of coffee, buy a new book, visit your friends, talk to your family, and do what you feel like doing—and see the change.
When you keep things as simple as possible, every situation becomes as simple as needed. Can’t think of a perfect plot? Read books. Don’t like the café your friends go to? Suggest a new one. Don’t like the dress you’re wearing? Well, change into another one.
Whenever you’re met with a backlash, a wall that seems too strong to break, or a boundary you need to crack to get ahead. If your gut is telling you to do it, do it. When you’re feeling low, read the first novel you ever read that made you want to become an author. When you’re feeling down, listen to the music that first gave you chills when you were going on a walk. When you feel like you can’t do it, think about how your life would turn out if you really don’t.
Feeling regret is much more terrible than feeling demotivated. A situation where life feels like a roller coaster you’re not enjoying can be much better than not getting on that roller coaster at all knowing how it feels in the first place.
Emotions can fluctuate, and we have control over them. But does regret mess with them? Sure, why not? Because you still have time to get on that roller coaster until a certain point in your life. But does regret ever leave you alone? No, it’s going to stay. Because until we take our last breaths, we will regret what we haven’t done. Or think about our life choices and feel guilty about them.
So, why not get on that ride before it’s too late?
Whatever we choose to do is in our hands. We chose it because we loved it, and because we love it, we should make a promise to ourselves never to leave it.
Who knows? Maybe one day, when you reach a point where you’re about to give up, just 10 seconds later your uploaded reel goes viral. The musician gets a contract to hold a concert. And the author, who was stuck at absolutely no views, gets more than a million overnight.
You never know.
All you need to know is: never give up.
Life is short. If you give up now, who will rise to the top tower then?
Happy writing,
Jasmine.
